the kids find fun

I'm reading a book right now about creativity and how everyone can and should develop it. It is fascinating. All kids ooze with creativity and imagination and I think over time many of us lose it, for various reasons. Not everyone is or should be creative in the same ways, that's what makes families, workplaces, church groups, etc what they are. It's good to have variety. I've been away from blogging for awhile for no other reason than too lazy to catch up. So I'm making an attempt. These pictures show some of the kids creativity and their excitement and love for life. What is it about my life that I don't find as much joy as these sweet kids? I'm missing something big...

Brynn's baptism

Brynn was baptized on a blizzardy night in early February. Thankfully the roads were fine the day before so the grandparents could travel here safely. It was a special time for us and for Brynn. We are proud of her for making this decision to be baptized into the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She is a great example to her siblings and friends. She even made invitations for all of our neighbors and several friends.

The Blind Side

I just finished reading a book that I found really interesting. It is The Blind Side by Michael Lewis. There is a movie made about it that I haven't seen. My sister-in-law was nice enough to edit her book with a lot of white out, so I could read it easier (I'm not afraid to admit that I don't like to read books or watch movies with a lot of swearing.)
A few things I really liked about the book:
-Tom Lemming, who is famous for gathering and compiling football stats to distribute to coaches, etc, began this dream without pay for 7 years! What sacrifice for something he really believed in and loved doing.
-this quote "what sets football apart from other sports is that what you don't see is often the most important thing." This is so true in many aspects of life. Motherhood is this way. Parenthood in general. I think many times in our lives as we give service, we do it quietly and unnoticed, as the Savior did.
-The Tuohy family was amazing. They LOVE sports, saw something unique in Michael Oher and helped give him the opportunities he needed to be successful in life They were mentors. They believed in him and helped in ways never could have happened without another mentor figure.
If you like sports, football especially, you'll love this. Even if you don't, the messages of the book were inspiring. (Remember there is a lot of swearing in the book. I'm not sure about the movie because I haven't seen it.)

The weather

We are almost half way through January and I always forget why I'm so frustrated this time of year. Winter didn't even come early this year but it never fails that January, February and sometimes March are horribly LONG months. It might just be because of my location on the planet. I can't change my circumstances but I sure am sick of being stuck inside, no sunshine, crazy kids, and overall tiredness. There is a TON of snow but it's way too cold to even think about playing in it. We tried the other day and poor Macy's feet took a long time to recover from the experience. How do you beat the winter blues?

follow up

Last night Brynn slept all through the night! She feels so much better today and we are so happy that we all got to sleep for a good, normal chunk of time. We had a chat with her and let her know there would be consequences for the crazy behavior in the night, the same as if it were day time. Prayers and other things worked! Here's hoping we've crossed the hump and returning to "normal."

Help

We are having a most unusual situation with one of our children. I'm at my wits end and not sure what to do.
This child as a toddler when put to bed would SCREAM until she fell asleep. She refused to be rocked, cuddled or soothed in any way. It just didn't work. It was awful for everyone involved in the bed time routine. By the time she was in a normal bed, this habit had ended. However, 3 nights ago, she threw-up and for some reason, her night time world has been thrown askew. She was afraid to return to sleep that night and was up until 1 or 2 in the morning, back and forth in our room and her bed. We don't allow the children to sleep in our room except as a privelege and what they call a "sleepover." I went and slept in the guest bedroom and let Stan deal with Brynn. He has more patience than I do at night. The next day she woke up, sweet as can be, as if she hadn't been freaking out for half of the night. We put her to bed the next night and she tried to become overanxious with us and say she couldn't go to sleep for whatever reason, begging to sleep in our room, stay up, be slept with, thousands of hugs and prayers. She was desparate. She finally drifted off to sleep when she realized we weren't playing games. However, at 1 in the morning, she woke up, demanding attention. She SCREAMED when she learned we still weren't playing the games. We had to take her to the basement because she was causing such a fuss. We had made a deal with her and in her completely overtired and overanxious state she didn't keep her end of the bargain. She was completely irrational and unable to be reasoned with, just like a toddler. It was FRUSTRATING, to say the least. Night 3, last night, started much the same. We did all the usual, this was after a day of praise of all kinds, for everything good she did, to make sure she knew that she is loved and appreciated, etc. She tried playing tricks again. We decided in order to keep our sanity, we would lock our bedroom door in the night time. If the kids need us, they'll knock. I wake easily. Well, she freaked out again last night, earlier this time. Screaming, beating on our door etc. We let her know we were here and we had prayed with her and for her. Several hugs were given, etc. Does anyone have any advice? Is this normal for an 8 year old to return to toddler-like behavior? She's too big to put in a crib she can't climb out of. We are all exhausted and by night time she is nearly delirious and then we start all over again. I have to say that we've been more patient than usual, thanks to the help of the Spirit, but we could use some ideas if anyone has any! I only post these details of crazy behavior because I want help.

Inspiring

I love this story of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. We also learned about Handel last week in our homeschool, from the December Ensign.
Two things that stood out to me from these learning experiences were:
1. These men were ordinary people, like all of us.
2. They were inspired to do something and ACTED on it. As a result, the world or mankind is blessed.
This gives me great hope as journey through the adventures of homeschooling. It is so easy to get discouraged and want to give up. I'm learning that every mother in this same journey, experiences all the same feelings. Even as mothers we have feelings of despair at times. These challenging experiences are what help us grow, and keep us on our knees seeking guidance from the one who knows our children the best.

Click here to watch a brief story of Longfellow's writing of I heard the Bells

Brynn is 8

I've been reflecting over the last 8 years today. I still can't believe that all that time has passed. It's fun to think of the ball of energy she has always been and continues to be, but more fun is seeing how she is growing and maturing. She has a testimony and is so excited to be baptized in a few weeks. I'll post some pictures of her friend party and other stuff when I get around to it.
The other thing I discovered and wanted to share was a new website linked with Lds.org. It's all about Christmas, there are videos, songs traditions, etc. It's great, check it out here:
http://lds.org/topic/christmas/christmas_video_2.html

Stan and I have listened to two interviews of apostles on the Mormon Channel. It is inspiring to learn of their lives. We listened to Elder Holland's most recently. Amazing! He and his wife have been through a lot in their lives, holding several busy church positions, and varying large responsibilities. It was inspiring to me to hear how they made it through. Spouses first, family next, then the rest of their energy was spent for all the rest. Plain and simple. Having a husband who is generally super busy, I can attest to this simple formula. Over the last few months we've spent 15 minutes together every day some time after he returns home from work. He lets me talk about concerns, excitement, or whatever. Occasionally he talks. I can't tell you what a HUGE difference this has made in our marriage. I feel heard and understood and loved, by only 15 minutes of focused time. I guess it suits my love language more than anything else right now. Random thoughts for the day...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SWEET BRYNN!

Thanksgiving

After I moved to Canada I often wondered why Thanksgiving was celebrated in October instead of November, like I was used to. As I read about the pilgrims this year, I think I learned why. The pilgrims first landed in Massachussets at the end of November but didn't reach their settling point, Plymouth Rock, until December. It was too late for a feast that year. The Indians were kind enough to share their food so the pilgrims didn't starve and die. Although, many did die because of exposure and sickness. The first Thanksgiving was celebrated the following mid-October where they invited the Indians to feast with them, expressing their thanks for their help in teaching them how to plant and care for their crops. I was happy to learn that, and put my wonder to rest for that question.

The test

I've recently been reading in my scriptures about righteous peopleof high church position, recieving great temptations to prove them, see if they are as strong as they are striving to be. Today must have been one of those days for me. I don't aspire to be someone of high church position, but I do try my best to live the commandments and do what I should be doing. I failed the test without even realizing it was a test but it has brought me to where I need to be, on my knees asking Heavenly Father for help. Being a mom is hard, I've always been one to admit it. Over the last year, since we started homeschool, many people say, "I don't know how you do it," or "you are so amazing to do that," or "I could never do that," or "you are so brave." The reply to those statements are "neither do I, it's not about me, yes you could, and brave is not the right word." The challenge I'm having this week with homeschool is being with the children on a never ending basis. At least it feels that way. I feel like a maid, a drill sargeant, and a servant. It's not even that the kids aren't always obedient, well-behaved, respectful, and kind. It's just that my personality demands a certain amount of rejuvination time and alone time. I never realize I didn't get enough until it's too late and I've gone crazy.
The positive note to this ordeal is that my husband is amazing. I would have left the house but it's -30C and I'm not crazy enough to go out alone in it. Stan locked me in my room with a book, a warm bath, and dinner by myself. He is currently working on an action plan with the kids of how they can regain my trust. Then he'll tuck them nicely into bed and I won't see them until tomorrow morning, when I hope to be refreshed. Why didn't I think of this earlier? Why did I wait until I was ready to sell the children to the neighbor? I'll have to remember to book myself some regular room time, it might just be all I need...

busted

I often find Brynn and Joel in her room talking or playing or reading. They were anxious to go in her room to spend some time together. After a little while, I decided to see what they were doing because I hadn't heard a sound. This was their confession...
Their expressions truly describe their reaction to being caught with the candy.

Joel's turn

It's so fun to see Joel doing what we all love.

HALLOWEEN

The Young Men and Women in our ward did a trunk or treat. It was simple and short and the kids came home with WAY too much candy.



Macy was completely worn out. It was a long week of late nights...

memorize

As part of our school, we have been working on the Articles of Faith. Macy is getting more than I realize. Here she is performing.

Brynn's project

My dad made this bookshelf for the girls and Brynn wanted to paint it pink, since I won't let her paint her walls pink. She also painted the wall shelf. She was pretty proud of herself.

dress up fun

Stan went to India in September and brought us back some clothes. For school one afternoon, we dressed up and made paper dolls and talked about different clothing around the world. It was really fun.

BOOKS

I love this. To me it portrays happiness, contentment and education. Macy had a class at the library
this morning. While she was busy, the older two scoured through the library books to pick their stack to bring home. It's so fun to watch them as they get so excited about the adventures they will read. Then, to come home and have perfect stillness as they all read and read and read. Guess what I was doing? Online scrapbooking. I should have been reading but they were so content, I had to get a jump on my first real project. It's for family history, after all.

front yard

We completed a project this summer. I don't even want to remember how many hours we put into this project. It used to be rocks, dying shrubs, a nice lily, and TONS of weeds. After removing all the unwanted stuff, we had to bring in some topsoil and then we got to lay sod. We are so happy with the final result. Everytime I look at it, I'm so grateful that we have nice grass that is growing. It makes a huge difference. I can't find a picture of the mess it was before so you'll just have to imagine a weed bed and some ugly shrubs.

Reality

I have been toting around my wedding dress for 9 years now. I'm not very attached to "things" and wondered what I could do with it. I thought of selling it but wasn't sure I'd get anything for it now, after 9 years. I wanted to make a blessing dress or suit out of it but the timing didn't work out, at least not yet. So, I had this great idea to use it to make a baptism dress for Brynn. I'm actually really excited about it. She turns 8 in December. I had to try on my dress one more time, just to see.... I hadn't worn it since I was married and I was positive that I wasn't the same size. Guess what I learned? It didn't fit. I didn't feel bad about cutting it up. =)

Thought for today

(this picture is from Whitney's wedding. Stan's oldest brother is with lots of the girl cousins)
I visited my sister-in-law's ward where she taught the Sunday School lesson and she gave me this quote to read. I don't believe it was by accident. It was exactly what I needed:
Elder Richard G. Scott said: "You must be willing to forgo personal pleasure and self-interest for family-centered activity, and not turn over to church, school, or society the principal role of fostering a child's well-rounded development. It takes time, great effort, and significant personal sacrifice to 'train up a child in the way he should go.' But where can you find greater rewards for a job well done?" (in conference Report, Apr. 1993, 43)
Anyone can read this and find something that will help them to be a better parent. For me, it was to not give up as a home schooling parent. It is so hard to home school but I think it is more for me than the kids, even though they love it and are benefiting from it. The hardest part for me is remembering and discovering the kids different abilities, interests, and strengths. There is no one-size-fits school program here, which makes it hard, but in the end, I believe for us, it will be better.